“Too Much” is not the Problem
Written by Lydia Burmazovic
February 17th, 2026
3 min read
February 17th, 2026
3 min read
Lydia Burmazovic is a high-performance mentor and the founder of Limitless with Lydia, where she works with ambitious, high-achieving women who know they’re capable of more. Her work focuses on helping women identify and close what she calls power leaks: subtle patterns that interfere with authority, clarity, visibility, and leadership.
Through her mentorship, Lydia helps women reclaim their natural power and operate from what she calls Limitless Tigress leadership: calm in their mind, playful in their expression, and fierce in their standards.
"There is no balance, it's about finding your RHYTHM in the game of life." -Lydia Burmazovic
Through her mentorship, Lydia helps women reclaim their natural power and operate from what she calls Limitless Tigress leadership: calm in their mind, playful in their expression, and fierce in their standards.
"There is no balance, it's about finding your RHYTHM in the game of life." -Lydia Burmazovic
Let me ask you this: Have you ever been told you’re “too much”? Too intense, too emotional, too ambitious, or too sensitive… You see, most women have, at some point or another, been placed in a box, labelled names, and so on.
Maybe it did not seem like an attack of character; it may have been subtle, but repeated enough to make you question yourself, to make you want to shrink, to make you dim your light. And over time, you started adjusting. Holding back your opinions. Dimming your light and parts of yourself to make others feel more comfortable. It's like wearing an invisible mask just to fit into the narrative of someone else's expectations.
Not because you’re unsure of who you are, but because you don’t want to be labeled as “too much.”
I’ve been told that before. And so have many of the women I work with. For a long time, I tried to manage how I was perceived. I people-pleased, I held back, and spent time in spaces that didn’t align with my energy. And I did all of this just to avoid comments like, “You work too much,” or “You’re always busy."
As a result, I carried this invisible weight, and every time it felt heavier and heavier. The result wasn’t peace or more focus, but instead, I felt heavy both physically and emotionally; it was depletion.
And over time, what I realized is this: Being “too much” was never the problem, but giving my power away to make others feel better was. Every time I said yes, I really wanted to say no. Every time I allowed "them" to make me second-guess what I already know is true, I allowed my energy to leak each time.
Maybe it did not seem like an attack of character; it may have been subtle, but repeated enough to make you question yourself, to make you want to shrink, to make you dim your light. And over time, you started adjusting. Holding back your opinions. Dimming your light and parts of yourself to make others feel more comfortable. It's like wearing an invisible mask just to fit into the narrative of someone else's expectations.
Not because you’re unsure of who you are, but because you don’t want to be labeled as “too much.”
I’ve been told that before. And so have many of the women I work with. For a long time, I tried to manage how I was perceived. I people-pleased, I held back, and spent time in spaces that didn’t align with my energy. And I did all of this just to avoid comments like, “You work too much,” or “You’re always busy."
As a result, I carried this invisible weight, and every time it felt heavier and heavier. The result wasn’t peace or more focus, but instead, I felt heavy both physically and emotionally; it was depletion.
And over time, what I realized is this: Being “too much” was never the problem, but giving my power away to make others feel better was. Every time I said yes, I really wanted to say no. Every time I allowed "them" to make me second-guess what I already know is true, I allowed my energy to leak each time.
This depletion became especially intense during my divorce. On the outside, everything looked so polished, yet, on the inside, there was this turbulence …. An uneasy feeling due to trying to fit into narratives that were never mine to carry.
When I made the decision to leave the marriage, there were many opinions, especially from those closest to me and everyone else around me. In the beginning, it was very tough. I was hurting, and a part of me wondered if I should just stay, even though I had already tried every option to make it work, including therapy.
Then over time, something changed. I worked with a mentor, and as we had our weekly sessions, my awareness grew stronger, and I realized how much power I was leaking…And that is the exact moment I made a decision to step away from the noise.
I began writing again and spent more time alone. I stopped performing strength and started observing myself instead. Through this emotional rollercoaster ride, I didn’t lose myself; I actually found myself. It was a bumpy ride, but it was definitely needed.
What surprised me the most was how my calm and my fierceness began to coexist; they had a flow of their own, a rhythm. My calm was no longer running away or suppressing my feelings, but rather filled with knowing what I want and boundaries that protected my energy, whereas my fierceness and my intensity were no longer reactive but rather a laser-focused energy that could not be shaken. Together, they created clarity and this momentum of self-love, strength, and choosing myself.
And with that clarity came something I had abandoned, my inner child, the play, the joy, and no more heaviness or invisible weight on my shoulders. And, the noise no longer bothered me; it didn't matter, as I know we are all unique.
When I shed the noise, I came back to myself. This feeling felt like something I cannot even put into words, simply unstoppable, the biggest joy ever!
What I’ve come to understand both personally and in my work with women navigating different seasons in their rhythm of life is that being labeled “too much” is rarely about you; it's more about projection from others. And, also, it’s often about misdirected power. Giving and wearing an invisible mask to seem like you can do it all, you can be liked by everyone, becomes depletion, and it's easy to lose yourself and your power.
Strength without integration becomes exhaustion. Sensitivity without self-trust becomes self-doubt. The same traits that give you power can easily take it away if you allow it; it's like a double-edged sword. If you keep handing over your power to everyone and everything you leak it, but instead, if you hold your power with focused energy, you are in control.
Power isn’t about shrinking or proving. It isn’t about silencing your intensity or amplifying it recklessly but rather knowing when to turn up the dial and when to turn it down; it’s about range. Leadership of your life, your voice, your energy, and your business requires that you access all of yourself, not just the version that feels most acceptable. It's knowing all of you, the light and the dark within, and choosing accordingly, depending on the situation.
Because you were never too much. You were learning how to carry your energy, your uniqueness, without giving it away. And when you stop giving your energy to noise, labels, or expectations, something bigger emerges: not louder, not more reactive, not harder, but simply aligned. Grounded so deeply within the roots of a big, tall tree. That self-power and alignment have a rhythm of their own, and once you feel it, you no longer shrink to fit. You move in a way that feels yours fully, anchored in who you are.
When I made the decision to leave the marriage, there were many opinions, especially from those closest to me and everyone else around me. In the beginning, it was very tough. I was hurting, and a part of me wondered if I should just stay, even though I had already tried every option to make it work, including therapy.
Then over time, something changed. I worked with a mentor, and as we had our weekly sessions, my awareness grew stronger, and I realized how much power I was leaking…And that is the exact moment I made a decision to step away from the noise.
I began writing again and spent more time alone. I stopped performing strength and started observing myself instead. Through this emotional rollercoaster ride, I didn’t lose myself; I actually found myself. It was a bumpy ride, but it was definitely needed.
What surprised me the most was how my calm and my fierceness began to coexist; they had a flow of their own, a rhythm. My calm was no longer running away or suppressing my feelings, but rather filled with knowing what I want and boundaries that protected my energy, whereas my fierceness and my intensity were no longer reactive but rather a laser-focused energy that could not be shaken. Together, they created clarity and this momentum of self-love, strength, and choosing myself.
And with that clarity came something I had abandoned, my inner child, the play, the joy, and no more heaviness or invisible weight on my shoulders. And, the noise no longer bothered me; it didn't matter, as I know we are all unique.
When I shed the noise, I came back to myself. This feeling felt like something I cannot even put into words, simply unstoppable, the biggest joy ever!
What I’ve come to understand both personally and in my work with women navigating different seasons in their rhythm of life is that being labeled “too much” is rarely about you; it's more about projection from others. And, also, it’s often about misdirected power. Giving and wearing an invisible mask to seem like you can do it all, you can be liked by everyone, becomes depletion, and it's easy to lose yourself and your power.
Strength without integration becomes exhaustion. Sensitivity without self-trust becomes self-doubt. The same traits that give you power can easily take it away if you allow it; it's like a double-edged sword. If you keep handing over your power to everyone and everything you leak it, but instead, if you hold your power with focused energy, you are in control.
Power isn’t about shrinking or proving. It isn’t about silencing your intensity or amplifying it recklessly but rather knowing when to turn up the dial and when to turn it down; it’s about range. Leadership of your life, your voice, your energy, and your business requires that you access all of yourself, not just the version that feels most acceptable. It's knowing all of you, the light and the dark within, and choosing accordingly, depending on the situation.
Because you were never too much. You were learning how to carry your energy, your uniqueness, without giving it away. And when you stop giving your energy to noise, labels, or expectations, something bigger emerges: not louder, not more reactive, not harder, but simply aligned. Grounded so deeply within the roots of a big, tall tree. That self-power and alignment have a rhythm of their own, and once you feel it, you no longer shrink to fit. You move in a way that feels yours fully, anchored in who you are.
